Visions of Grandeur

One thing we need to keep in mind when following our blueprint is that there are important people and tasks in our life that we can’t sacrifice. I write this because we all have people in our corner that are important to who we are as individuals, as parents, and as friends. When we dig deep into what makes us, well us, we have our personalities, but we also have the people around us that make us succeed or fail. The hardest task is to balance these people in our life. Often we get involved in charging into tasks or setting new goals and we can leave people behind without meaning to. This is when we have to share with others what’s going on, that we are taking big steps into making changes in our life and becoming a new person.
Now this leads me to talk about the negative people in our lives and we surely all have them. The non-motivators in our corner can be severe distractions, it’s bad enough we already have the voice leaning in every time we are a bit unsure if we are taking the right steps towards change. That friend of ours who is always so negative and edgy. Always complaining about this or that and expecting us to right the wrongs of their life for them, it’s time to analyze this person and to really ask ourself if they are a positive or negative influence. If we find them to be a negative Nancy in our world, then maybe the time has come to chat with them and to tell them how much we value them as a friend but we can’t fix their lives for them. What I’m definitely not saying is to write these people out of your life. Being honest and sharing with them the positive aspects of life and how much they are a big part of ours can be a change in and of itself to the negative/attention seekers.
Relatively taking the time to be there for our spouse, children, or friends can be a great way to relieve some built up anxiety about our new designs on becoming. If your already taking the right steps it will show and more than likely you will receive some attention benefitting you by seeing that your taking the right steps, and above all the steps your taking are working.
Vision is important, people who succeed have to have strong vision of the final outcome. Often there are plenty of people who can’t see the big picture of what your doing and will be quick to point this out. Using the power of positive thinking and visualizing techniques can reap huge rewards. I could tell you how to use meditation and positive visualizing till the cows come home but there are many professionals out there who can do a better job than I can. But here goes:
Take 15 minutes out of your day and find a quiet place that you can just sit back and invest in yourself for a short amount of time. Think about how the slimmer new you will look. Think about the smile on your face when your closing on the business deal you’ve been working hard on. Imagine shaking the hands, what the conference room will look like, and most importantly imagine being there. Studies have shown that the power of positive thinking is one of the most beneficial tools we have in our briefcase. I’m no expert on the matter but it did save me a bunch of mental pain while I was in Iraq while I was in the Marine Corps. But if you would like more information about this subject I will recommend “The Magic of Thinking Big,” by Dr. David Schwartz.
“I would rather have a life of “oh wells” then a life of what ifs’.”
Joel Brown


Where is the Blueprint?

So what’s a blueprint? The real question is how to I set up my blueprint to succeed? First is to find the changes in your life that are the main priorities that need to be classified into 3 groups. Your main priority should overlap all your other groups. Picture that you have a large circle and in that will be your main and most important priorities. Then using other rings that meld into your main one, they should be the rings of reform.
Above all you have to personally figure out what goes into each ring. For me my main priorities are to get though school and into speaking engagements. I believe that the rings will have various other points. Network with Toastmasters in my local area. Building a presentation for my motivational speeches.
Here’s what I’ve come to. Behind this blog is a want to help others to see the power that they have within themselves to make changes in their life. There are plenty of advisors out there to get people off drugs, to quit using alcohol, etc. My main emphasis is to help myself by seeing what works with others by utilizing my own methods that I’m building up on. This has a purpose to help others and myself to completely bring about changes within their lives for the better.
Beyond my Marine Corps entrance and exodus, I have brought on much needed changes for my overall health and wellbeing by getting into the gym. It took quite a push to really get in there day to day, but after working hard for 6 months it becomes a challenge to not get myself into the gym. I am also working on quitting smoking which is a main concern in my life as I am not looking forward to my later years full of emphysema and heart attacks. So by going to the gym and working to rid myself of all cigarettes in my life, these changes will permit newer and better ones to come forth. I will become healthier and have a better physical attachment to my body and feel more self-confident.
Did you know that if your 20 lbs or more over weight you very well could be looking at a loss in raises over the course of your life time to the tune of 15 k per year. In a study I did for my Speech class last spring I did a power point on this subject and basically what it was saying that if your in shape your company will give raises not based on performance but by some sort of health standard. Wouldn’t it be nice to have an extra 15 k to invest.

So I leave you with a new task of forming your Blueprint. This will give you a grand way to have something to look at and to keep track of your progress in time to see if your making ways towards becoming the new you.

My Choice to Become.

As I stated in my last post that I would let you all to know about a choice I had to make in my life that led me onto the path I am currently on. This was actually made for me, but it’s the way I chose to utilize what had been given to me, and checking my own self-doubt in the same instance.

In 2004 I had been a young chef for about 10 years. I had spent my entire high-school years in the back of kitchens, skipping school to work, and honing my techniques. I am not shy to say that I had the skills to pay the bills at that moment in my life. I had traveled both coasts and was working for a top notch restaurant in Seattle. On my way to work I was looking out the window of the truck I was in and the next thing I knew someone was asking me if I was allright.

The truck had flipped on its side with my right (dominant) arm going through the passenger side window. Several minutes went by and I was finally pulled out of the truck. My right arm was bleeding severly and I couldn’t feel my hand. Hours in the E.R. went by and the verdict came that I had almost severed my ulnar nerve. After this came plus the 287 stitches I was quite shaken up.

Fast forward 13 months. I was finally done with extensive therapy and was deemed back at 100%. The first thing I wanted to do was handle my knives. Sadly, the feeling and technique were gone as if I had never picked one of them up in my life. This was my first choice of what to do next…
I knew that my career was over and I could drink my sorrow away or move on. I had a son to take care of and knew as much as I hated it that I had to persevere and to start down a new road.

I enrolled in college with little success. It had been years since I was in school and I was not ready for the discipline I needed. I began to fail miserably and that led to drinking. Choice number two was to find something, anything to get me back on track. Enter my savior, well sort of, my grandfather. A WWII Marine and Guadalcanal Veteran, tough as nails at the spry age of 79. I sat down and chatted with him about his experience in the Marine Corps and was so taken I decided to join.

I hadn’t told anyone about this new choice (3) that I was about to make. I was 25 and truth be told had made many attempts at starting something but I was always let them peter out or just gave up, I knew if I enlisted in the Marine Corps, there was no getting out of that. I enlisted on the Marine Corps Birthday and went home to tell my folks. In the parking lot I realized I had finally made a choice of my own to do something good for myself and my country. I still let out a yell wondering what the hell I had just done.

Mom and dad were for me with hints of apprehension. Best friend and brother told me I wasn’t young enough or tough enough to become a Marine. Choice 5 became to prove them wrong. This wasn’t an easy choice and let me tell you the Marine Corps will make you strong both physically and mentally. You face a long drive towards Parris Island, it’s filled with anxiety, dread, and dreams. You know now that you have got to come home a United States Marine or you will have failed everyone, parents, friends, church, you name it even the postman. I say the postman because after the first letter I sent home, he hand delivered them straight to my parents instead of putting them in the mailbox.

It’s now been almost 2 years since I left the Corps. I was a grunt in the infantry and was in a famed unit the 2/2 G Co Raiders. It was the best choice I have made in my life. The self-motivating factor is prize enough to have been given through that experience. The greatest thing I learned is that I had that self-motivation within me. The trials and tribulations you experience through boot camp only reinforce what was already there.

So now we have two pieces to Becoming. We can say we need only our own self-motivation and the choosing of where we want to take our path and to leave self-doubt buried six feet underground. Where are you going to go? It’s up to you. You will believe in yourself, will motivate yourself, and you will make the right choice in taking that first of many steps into your next endeavor. Once you begin to start the desires you have will seem inconsequential, as they will come to you because of the direction your taking. All because you realized you have got what it takes, you can be that Marine, that pilot, that lawyer, or that gal with two homes.

It all begins with realizing you have potential within and the choice to use it.

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